Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Fears and such

What is the worse thing that people can say about you?

For me, I have often thought that the worst thing people can say about me is that I have been stupid, easily duped, not savvy enough or quick enough to see things clearly..

Yet – it seems that all the “horrible” things we fear people will feel and think of us – is like saying – I fear people will think I am not perfect! And hey psssssssssssst NO ONE is perfect.

I have learnt that being a fool sometimes won’t kill me. Maybe embarrass me a little – who ever died of humiliation? My very wise College Professor once said.. sometimes the only road to humility, is humiliation! ( I used to think he was smoking a little something something..) but infact in truth – harsh as it may seem.. there are so many varying facets of humility and finding yourself in a situation where you hit yourself on the forehead and say: ‘Damit, what are people gonna say / think about me now?”

Do you care? YES – we all care. I used to fool myself in believing that I don’t care, but we all do – in different variations and circumstances, but we all care to some degree.

One of the ways to combat this is to see failure, rejection and even embarrassment in a new light. And redefining yourself, others and reality.

The reality is: People fail.
The reality is: You fail.
The reality is: I fail.
The redefinition is: Failure is only a life lesson.
The solution: Get over it and relax, enjoy life and stop allowing other people to have so much power over YOUR life!

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