Revenge and Regret

It has been said: "There is nothing more destructive than a civil war".. I tend to disagree..

Perhaps in the magnitude of destruction and lives lost, it may seem far more justifiably grievable than the single lives lost in every day life and then further more diminished is deemed the destruction of the emotions and heart of another person...

Why do people who take emotional revenge on another seem to be surprised by the consequences and regret? How can you take back the pain you cause another? Much like a life lost by whatever means.. you cannot. Yes, i agree - a death can never be recovered.. but hearts heal and wounds repair over time.. but is it any less an abomination to assassinate the character and the feelings of another person, simply for revenge?

Utilitarianism, seeking the greatest possible total self-happiness, would require some people to (by whatever means)appease their own greedy desire to not be on the receiving end of anything negative and when so received.. revenge is their "logical" answer! It seems to some, forgiveness and being the "bigger person" is somehow a form of weakness..

However, i also believe that the more one attacks us, the deeper the strengths that are awakened in us. This is the very thing i have fought against my entire life (seeking revenge) because i believe in intimacy with life.. with your people, your world, your work, your soul mate, your friends and your "neighbor", and I fail to comprehend in my (somewhat naive) view of life, why people still take the road of MOST destruction to another.

Another tactic is inventing private definitions of revenge, of morality, consequence and conscience. For if you create your own, then you are not bound by any other. And that makes it OK!

But - oh happy day because i firmly believe that conscience has its own revenge and Karma is a bitch!

And - why am i ranting about this?? Cause it is my blog and because i can!!! LOL :-)