Hopeless romantic ...

Ok , I had to laugh, I got this U-tube video on Facebook the other day – which gives you 5 steps on how to be more romantic.

Firstly, let me just say, I am by far a hopeless romantic.. (and before the laughter begins), let me qualify by saying, that I AM SUCH a romantic.. but convention of expression is not my style.

Ok so (shut up and) listen: (LOL):

They say (these are now the experts):

1) Make time for each other (like date night)

My comment: Ok, I will give you that one.. time is necessary for romance.. date night? Come on, really force yourself to have some “date” booked and then do something you are too tired and PMSed to do.. that’s NOT romantic. And then you are just relieved that you had your “date night” to prove that your relationship is not in the crapper!

2) Leave each other little notes:

Ok this idea sucks. It all starts with: “hey schnookums, see you tonight. Miss you” / "Love you, million kisses".. then it becomes: “hey ass, have you done the dishes” – “are you ever gonna pick up that towel in the bathroom” and following it up with “honey” or xxx doesn’t make it romantic!!

3) Write each other little love letters expressing your feelings.

Hey People, we live in the age of Facebook, email, IM, text, phone, Webcam, webex and all that.. I can see how to some, taking your carpel tunneled hand to write words that frankly are better said by hallmark and found on google, would seem romantic to some.. I guess.. to see their genetics and unique DNA on paper in an attempt to tell you, you are special..ok MAYBE - but really – who has the freaking time to kill MORE trees, find the scrap book that the dog probably peed on to write something that SHOULD really be said in person??????


4) Cook each other a romantic dinner at home.. and the U-tube lady added, maybe feed the food to each other…

Ok, I like this idea.. there is nothing that says romance like getting badly cooked curry under your newly painted fingernails to shove into your partners mouth (which now smells like curry and garlic) and watching the clumsy clod mess all over his clothes – which you have to clean later that week!

No!!! be realistic about romance!!

I was once asked, how can love and romance be realistic, isn't the very nature of love and romance irrational?? Oh it SO can be realistic and rational and when it is, its SO much better – I am not talking about being programmed, being boring.. but all this stereotypical crap sets people up for failure.

So, no I am not wet blanket or a romance assassin. I just believe in fun, in experience, in spontaneity, in reality, in being passionate and explorative. And being yourself makes it romantic.. Cause I mean face it so many women force their husbands to buy them flowers when their husbands could care diddly about flowers and when the weekly demand doesn’t come “he doesn’t love her”. And the paw-paw hits the fan!! and when he sends his secretary to get flowers and post to her work.. she thinks: "ahh my husband is SUCH a romantic" - puke...

You need to speak the love language that your partner speaks, we all have our own unique language and when yours is touched and spoken your heart responds - and stop listening to Dr Ruth, an 80 year old telling you what granny fanny panties makes for romance…

:-P

This is Dr LoveJade… over and out!