Knowing when to let go.

You know, since I was little, I had a very hard time in letting go of things.. especially people. Whenever I connected with someone, I would be so loyal and hold onto that relationship even if it was to my own detriment.

Is anything more important in life than getting to know ourselves as a whole and as an essence of love and relationships? Each person needs to bring and embrace freshness and candor with each new relationship.

Over the past few years I have gained and lost quite a few good friends too. That was really hard. In every human heart we all feel the call to be simple, to be present, to be real, to be accepted and to express ourselves to others. And when we connect on the deepest of levels, our hearts find a sense of satisfaction.

Sometimes, I have lost those relationships because our lives were filled with useless battles. I have fought for things that now make no sense and not fought hard enough for the things that truly matter. Now, letting go should NOT become easy and it never is.. for something that is important to you. But you do need to learn how to let things go.

When it comes to people.. I hold on. I have the 5-rule.. Give a person 5 benefits of the doubt before you question their character. Might seem a little strange... but in my limited life experience.. when someone hurts you, betrays you, ignores you, disappoints you... give them the benefit of the doubt... allow their humanity to be portrayed.. 5 times before you make decisions about how they value you as a friend.. Seem a little extreme? Maybe..

And When you do walk away... walk away in peace and in sincerity.. No resentment.... regardless..

These lessons I learn even today... :)